While divorce rates rise and marriage fall apart on a daily basis, an outside
observer of swinging might think that it helps to cause marriage crises. This
is certainly not the case. Swinging, through numerous individual interviews
and case studies, has been shown to help strong marriages become even stronger.
Strength in numbers?
When you talk to an experienced swinger, you will find that they didn't
want to try swinging for the sex, but for the experience. Their marriages
may have been plenty strong going into the whole adventure, but one or both
of the partners just wanted a little something different and new. They
didn't love
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If you've already been to the first base of swinging, then let's
go ahead and hit that home run. After weeks, maybe even months of slow,
soft swinging, you've gotten comfortable and you're ready to go.
Have you and your partner talking about what's okay to do and what isn't?
A Few Basic Rules
Each couple will be different in determining the rules of play when hard swinging,
but here are some things to keep in mind or try for your selves.
Talk about your fantasies. Is your husband into watching two women,
or are you ready to see your husband pleasure someone else? What do you
really want to play
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What may surprise you is that swingers actually report a better body image
from the experience. By putting themselves 'on display' for
someone other than their partner, their image of their self changes dramatically.
But why is this?
All Shapes And Sizes
If you're going a lot of swingers clubs or events, then you're
bound to realize that no one is perfect. In fact, you'll see that
many swingers are just your normal, everyday people.
We're not all models or erotic dancers.
We're teachers and retirees, factory workers and secretaries. We're
just your everyday people who like to enjoy swinging.
And by looking around and realizing that anyone and everyone can be beautiful,
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COUPLES SWAPPING AND JEALOUSY
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Although you may never encounter this, couples swapping and jealousy is an important topic to discuss. And with a few simple discussions and plenty of honest communication, you can avoid having any troubles.
Talking To Each Other
The main glue that holds any relationship together is communication. Without the ability to talk, you won't be able to sort out problems as they occur or prevent ones from happening.
And in terms of sharing sexual fantasies-well that will never happen if you're too embarrassed or self-conscious.
A lot of people will blame the problem of non-communication on the male in the relationship, but it's simply not true. When couples don't talk, it's both of the partners' problems. Actually, a lot of women remain quiet because they've learned to not 'rock the boat' in terms of saying things that may be less than favourable.
But this isn't the time to worry about being gentle, you need to be honest.
Talk about your concerns and what MIGHT make you jealous before you even get into a couples swapping relationship.
And If I Feel Jealous After Everything Has Begun?
This is also completely normal to go through when you've just started couples swapping. Women especially are prone to feelings of low self worth when put into 'competition' with another woman.
Of course, once she realizes that she's still number one to her partner, her confidence will grow.
But until that time, you will want to set up regular talks about how you're feeling in the swinging relationship. Is there something that might help one of the partners feel more secure?
Many times couples can choose s signal or some sort of way to show each other their devotion.
It can be something as simple as making sure to caress and touch their partner before going off with another partner. You may also decide that you want to reserve certain actions (kissing on the lips, for example) for just the two of you.
This keeps that act a special moment reserved for your commitment to each other.
Is Jealousy Healthy?
Surprisingly enough, a certain degree of jealousy is healthy for a relationship because it naturally leads to a discussion of the importance of commitment. And it can lead to each partner revealing the depth of their love for each other.
Jealous can cause you to step back and revaluate your place in your partnership. It can point out the strengths and uncover the positive parts.
When it becomes unhealthy is when it's used as a tool against the other person.
You don't want to try to make someone jealous as that can be seen as some sort of test to a relationship. And that's not the point of couples swapping. Your relationship should already be strong-constantly challenging each other does not help.
Couples swapping does not need to include jealousy, but if it should become an issue, take a breath and talk about it. It's usually just a bump along the way, not a road block.
First of all, wife swapping is an older term for swinging, but it's
still found in articles and literature, so we're going to use it here.
Swinging is a new way to experience your current relationship in the presence
of another couple or single. You can be heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual
to enjoy this exciting lifestyle.
Who's Swapping
Men and women from all walks of life are finding that wife swapping is something
that appeals to them. Perhaps they're been in a relationship for
a while and just want to try something new.
Maybe there are sexual boundaries that they want to push through and you want
to explore these
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You have to have a first time for everything, so why not do it right when
trying wife swapping?
Since you're already laid down the guidelines for what kind of events
may happen, you now need the perfect setting to get the night off to a perfect
start.
Location, Location, Location
When you're starting off in wife swapping, you want to be completely
comfortable with the other couple (or single, etc). Choosing a place
that suits everyone is a great way to begin.
Many times, a house or hotel room might be chosen.
I personally don't like the sterility of a hotel room, so I will talk
about being at someone's
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When it comes to finding someone that you feel comfortable with, you usually
take your time, right? Well, when it comes to wife swapping, that same
train of thought applies.
There are certain factors that you should consider and weigh heavily as you
choose someone to swing with:
Honesty
You need to find people that are going to be honest with you. These
are people that tell you what their needs are, what they do not like, and what
their fantasies are.
You want to see all of their cards before you play any games.
If you should catch them in a lie, then you will need to figure out if they
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